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The
Beginning:
It was a week-long visit to Milton Erickson in 1979, that is
probably responsible for beginning my quest to find the Core
Transformation process. During the last year of his life, Dr.
Erickson had the policy of only accepting mental health professionals
as visitors. As we understood it, this was because
he wanted to devote his remaining time to helping the next generation
of counselors and therapists. One small group would come in
for a week at a time, spending each morning in a small circle
in Dr. Ericksons home office, listening to him tell stories
about his clients. A therapist friend of mine signed up for
a week and invited me to join her small group of friends and
colleagues in Phoenix AZ.
When
I went, I was dealing with a very difficult personal issue.
My friend encouraged me to ask Dr. Erickson for a private session,
since he had helped her with a somewhat similar issue within
the past year. I felt more than a bit intimidated by the famous
Dr. Erickson, but on the first day we were there, when
I said hello and introduced myself, I got my courage
up and asked him if he would work with me privately. He said
Yes, smiling and nodding his head, but then turned
away without anything furtherno explanation about how
to set up appointment; no next step. I was confused.
Everyone
was getting seated, and Dr. Erickson was definitely in
charge, so I didnt ask any questions, but waited
for him to let me know when this private session would happen.
During the morning group session, at some point Erickson mentioned
offhand and with a smile, that his license had expired, so he
could no longer work with anyone privately.
Now
I was really confused! Was he really going to work with me,
then? Maybe he had meant he would use me as a demonstration
person in the small group
This thought gave me a little
reassurance, so every time he demonstrated a trance technique
with someone, I did my best to be responsive. I noticed that
he sometimes demonstrated with the person sitting next to him
in the small circle. So the next day I made sure I sat in that
place. But he didnt work with me. The next day, when I
sat farther away, he finally did use me as a demonstration person,
but nothing much happened. I was again disappointed. Each day
I would get my hopes up, and each day I was disappointed.
Finally,
on the last day, I gave up. I resigned myself to not getting
anything for myself personally, so I thought I may as well just
learn as much as I could about what he was doing with others
during this last session. Instead of trying to trance out, I
just stayed alert and watched for the analogue marking, etc.,
that he was doing with everyone else. Since I knew some of the
other people, it made more sense.
About
an hour or more into the morning, as I sat there, all of a sudden
I became a different personthats the only way I
know how to describe it. Within a matter of seconds, I suddenly
felt like I had never felt before. I still dont know how
to put it into words, but looking back on it I felt a sense
of wellbeing, and an inner knowing that whatever
happened, I would be OKthings would be fine no matter
what. I had never felt that way before, in such a complete way.
I assumed the man sitting on the other side of the circle in
the purple pajamas had something to do with this, but I sure
didnt have any idea how.
At
this moment, Erickson looked straight at me and said in his
slow, rhythmic voice, And your unconscious mind has just
made an important decision. (OK, so thats pretty
clearhe not only had something to do with this, but knew
exactly when it took effect.)
and you dont
know what it is, he continued. That is exactly what I
was thinking. I thought about the major issue in my life that
I had been in such turmoil about, and realized I still didnt
have a clue what I would do, or how I would solve
the situation. But somehow I knew things would be fine. The
thought went through my mind, Im not sure if I would
have anything to work with him aboutmaybe I dont
need a private session now.
And
that was the moment Erickson said, And do you still feel
a need to work with me privately?
I
said, No, I dont think so. I was still very
puzzled. I didnt know what had happened, and I had no
idea what I was going to do about my life situation. Yet I had
a knowing that it was handled.
Over
the next several weeks, this feeling of wellbeing and clarity
stayed with me very strongly. Without conscious thinking or
planning, it gradually came to me what I needed to do. I carried
out my new plan in a way that felt more congruent than I can
remember ever having felt before. Even though it was something
difficult, I felt I could act from a place of love and respect,
and without an attachment to what would happen as a result.
This
experience left me with the clear knowledge that rapid and very
deep change was definitely possible, and possible for me. Before
this time, I had been doing and teaching NLP. I loved it because
of the reliable results it would get with other people, but
I was frustrated that it usually didnt seem to work with
me. Other people looked different and said they were getting
good changes, but with rare exception, that didnt seem
to happen when I went through the processes.
My
experience with Erickson stayed with me as a puzzle
to be solved. Many times over the following years I pondered
the question, How did he get that dramatic and deep change
in me? The full results I experienced over the next weeks
didnt completely stick, and I wanted a way
to get back to the experience of wellbeing I had felt so strongly.
Plus, I thought if I could find some all-purpose method for
having that kind of experience, many people could benefit.
I
dont think I ever answered my question of What Erickson
did with methe audiotapes of the session were so garbled
I couldnt make them out, and I had no awareness of what
might have happened. When I attempted to model my pre
and post experience with submodalities, it didnt
seem to capture the full depth of what had happened. But having
that experience made me persistent in seeking a deeper change
method than we had to date within NLP.
The
Threads from NLP:
The main threads leading to the CT process itself, came from
the field of NLP. One contributing element is the parts model,
and the other is the language models: presuppositions and language
patterns.
The
Parts Model:
I
had always been drawn to the parts methods; 6-step
reframing and the parts/polarities integration. {I believe that
credit for developing the 6-step reframing format goes to John
Grinder. He says his unconscious mind came up with it once when
he was too sick to teach, and he programmed his unconscious
mind to teach for him. Virginia Satir deserves the credit for
the main idea behind 6-step reframingof finding positive
outcomesshe did this within the family system, and also
did Parts Parties for identifying and integrating
parts within an individual. John and Richard developed their
parts model formats by studying her work, and the work of Perls
and Erickson. We assume Richard and John also developed the
Visual Squash (an explicit method for integrating polarities/parts
by using two hands) because it appears in Structure of Magic
Vol II (P. 86-88), and was on early audiotapes of their seminars
that they gave Steve to use in putting together the book, Frogs
into Princes ( pp 129-135) }
For
me personally, the parts methods worked better than the anchoring-based
methods. Very early on, when I did parts work I intuitively
started going to a higher level of positive purpose
than what I had been taught to do. It just felt like a good
idea, and I often did this with clients when I taught the Visual
Squash Parts Integration. I remember once when Robert Dilts
came to Colorado and did a demonstration of the Visual Squash.
(This is the method where you find two opposite parts, place
one in each hand, ask each its positive intention, create recognition
and appreciation of the other part & its outcomes, and then
bring the hands together for integration.) Robert took each
part to the level of a positive purpose, and then began to negotiate
an integration. It took a long time, because the two polarities
had major objections to each other. I dont remember the
content, but it was the kind of thing where one part wants to
work harder to be successful, while the other part
wants to take it easy to relax and enjoy oneself.
The part that wanted to enjoy life didnt care about being
successful, and didnt want to be involved with the other
part, and vice versa. Robert did a great job of reframing for
both sides, so that finally the parts were willing to do the
integration. Everyone was extremely impressed with his negotiation
skills and the resolution he was able to get in a difficult
situation, and learned a lot.
When
Steve commented to me about it afterwards, I remember saying,
Yes, it did work well, but you know, Im almost certain
he wouldnt have had to do any of that negotiating work
if hed just taken both parts one or perhaps two levels
higher in getting the meta-outcome. That would have made the
objections evaporate without any effort. I was clear it
would have worked that way, because Id done it myself
many times with people. That was when I realized that I was
doing and teaching Parts Integration a bit differently than
it was being taught in the NLP field in general.
I
am saying this in the context of my high regard for Robert Dilts
as a person and trainer. He was one of my/our early teachers
of NLPand we were one of his first sponsors. We used to
hire him to do trainings in our basement back in the early days
of NLP (1978), and I learned a huge amount from him. He so obviously
has offered so much to the field (and to me personally) and
continues to do so. This is just about the Japanese proverb,
No one of us is as smart as all of us. We each have
something to add.
The
Language Pattern Thread:
The
other thread that led me to the CT process is the language patterns.
I had always enjoyed working with and teaching language patterns,
especially what is called Meta-Model III and conversational
change. (For those not already familiar, Meta-Model III is a
training format rather than a change procedure. Very briefly,
the guide thinks of the first thing he/she wants
to say in an interaction. Rather than saying it, you write it
down, and then find all the presuppositions in this sentence,
along with the direction you think this will shift the clients
experience. As guide, you rewrite your opening sentence, with
better presuppositions, etc. Once youve honed your opening
sentence, you finally say it, and then the client responds
with one sentence. You write this down also, listing all the
presuppositions. Slowing things down in this way allows you
to be very purposeful in your interaction, and glean a lot from
only a few words.)
Our
understanding is that the Meta-Model III training format came
out of Richard Bandlers work with clients. Again, with
this training format, you are not using any particular process,
but you are attending to presuppositions in such a way that
you (hopefully) find a unique doorway to change for the specific
person in front of you.
When you get experienced at this, you go for the smoke
coming out of the ears response, which tends to happen
when the limiting presuppositions dissolve. What Ive described
is the brief version. There are several examples of me doing
public demonstrations of this on the Advanced
Language Patterns audio CD set that NLP Comprehensive
has. The end of that CD set is from one or two conference presentations
I made where I asked for volunteers from the audience, and demonstrated
conversational change with one person after another.
The
other relevant part is that when Steve and I designed our own
Advanced Language Patterns training segment, we added several
patterns not in the original set of sleight-of-mouth patterns.
(The original sleight-of-mouth patterns were from Robert Dilts
modeling of Richard Bandlers work.) Most notably, these
extra patterns we called reversing presuppositions
and reversing cause-effect. We got these patterns
by modeling my demonstrations of conversational change. We noticed
in my demonstrations, I often used several patterns that werent
in the original set of SOM but that were quite powerful. I also
did my best to create a Language Patterns Flowchart
with the goal of making it easier for people to do conversational
change. This flowchart maps out in a very general way how one
can systematically and conversationally go from an outcome (or
problem) through a complete change. (The flowchart is also part
of the Advanced
Language Patterns set available from NLP
Compprehensive.) This background work fairly directly fed into
what became the Core Transformation Process.
Finding
Core Transformation:
The CT process itself came together in complete form in the
summer of 1989, when I gave myself the challenge of working
with people who had tried everything on their biggest
issue, and nothing had worked. I set myself the task of going
for the outcome in any way, except that I wouldnt use
any method I knew how to do. I wanted to find something that
would go deeper and do more than the methods currently in NLP.
I wanted to find something that got the level of change that
Milton Erickson had gotten with me, and that would last through
time. I wanted to find something that felt deeply healing and
transformative. It seemed possible, and I think the audacity
of my teachers (such as Richard Bandler and John Grinder) in
exploring and finding new ways was catching. I sometimes told
people (half-joking but also serious) that we would be working
with their lifes biggest issue and they could go home
when they had what they wanted. They knew it was an exploration.
I
sat down with people, listened carefully for presuppositions
in every word they spoke, carefully embedded presuppositions
in my own language, and tracked nonverbal states. On top of
that, I just trusted that somehow, something would come to me/us
to do that would bring about this deep level change. With the
first person I worked with in this way, I found myself asking
for a deeper level of positive purpose than Id done before.
I just kept going, waaay beyond the level of positive.
At some point my client was in a state they couldnt really
describe, but it didnt take any great sensory acuity on
my part to notice that they were in an incredibly positive,
powerful state. I dont recall ever seeing someone in such
a strongly, deeply positive state before. I didnt know
exactly what it was, but stepping into their shoes, I could
feel some of it myself and I recognized its healing power. It
came to me immediately to do something that basically combined
the reversing presuppositions/reversing cause-effect
that Id been using for years, to manifest the healing
potential of this state.
Thats
what I did, and those two phases are what I called Eliciting
the Outcome Chain and Reversing the Outcome Chain,
which are the keys to the CT process. Several people later,
I added Parental Timeline Reimprinting. This happened when I
had guided one client through the CT process, and the intensity
of her core state seemed a bit weak to get a complete shift
in her life situation. I thought she needed something to deepen
and intensify her experience to ensure that it would hold.
Thats
pretty much the story. I still have the handouts I created from
those 1989 client sessions. The steps are all there in the original
notes (used in the March 1990 Post-Master Practitioner training
in Colorado), along with criteria for the Core State of Being.
While Ive tweaked the wording over time to maximize response
with a wide range of people, both the steps and wording are
still very close to my original notes.
Looking
back on it, I dont think that CT is what Erickson did
with me. That remains a mystery. The man was an incredible genius
and I would still love to know how he did it. But my experience
with him is part of the unfolding of the method for meit
is what gave me the clarity that deep change was possible.
Leslie
Cameron-Bandlers work: Leslie is a wonderful
therapist and teacher, for whom I have the deepest respect.
(While Leslie is not working actively now, you can still sample
some excellent therapy demonstrations by Leslie on DVD from
NLP ComprehensiveLasting
Feelings and Making
Futures Real, and of course her book, Solutions
remains a classic introduction to the field.)
Leslie
Cameron-Bandler was doing work that had some parallels to my
work with Core Transformation, and I would like to acknowledge
that. She called it "Imperative Self." I first learned
about Leslies method from Metha Singleton, in a presentation
at an NLP conference, sometime after I had developed the CT
workso as far as I know her work didnt influence
how CT formed. However Steve suggested that I include a section
about the similarities and differences here. The main similarity
is that Leslies Imperative Self has a chain
of criteria (similar to the CT outcome chain), and goes to an
overarching criteria. (I think that's what she called
it.) I went ahead with presenting CT work because I thought
CT offered a more complete and deep change method in several
ways:
1)
With Imperative Self (IS), the overarching criteria
frequently fell short of a Core State, so its transformative
potential was more limited. (As I recall, half the examples
Metha presented didn't get to a Core State level.) With CT work
the elicitation procedure makes it possible to always go to
that level, and we have specific criteria to know when we are
there.
2)
The CT elicitation procedure is associated--it guides the client
to "step in" to each step in the outcome chain, making
it easier to actually get to a deep core state, and easier to
experience it once elicited. As presented, the IS work was more
conceptual, and the client did not end with a felt experience.
3)
Once the Core State is discovered, CT provides an immediate
way to utilize it to transform the clients experience.
This wasnt the case with IS work. It was presented as
an elicitation procedure without a specific change procedure.
4)
With IS, one attempted to find an overarching criteria
for the whole person by asking questions of the persons
conscious mind. With CT, one works with unconscious parts. This
respects that there really isnt ever a single criteria
chain that works for the whole person. There are usually
multiple parts, each with their own unique criteria chains
as well as unique and different Core States. By working with
parts or aspects of ourself that arise
in different life situations, we can use CT as an ongoing pathway
to reaching deeper and deeper aspects of wholeness or oneness
that is our nature. Each has a slightly different hue or flavor,
and like the different facets of a gem, each adds uniquely to
the full result.
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